How and when to talk to your child about sex?
How and when to talk to a child about sex ? – We live in a country where there are still some taboos in talking to children, or teenagers. The average parent tries to avoid the topic of sex for as long as possible, and is already really happy when he doesn’t have to answer embarrassing questions at all. But this is not the way to go, do we really want our child to learn about ?these things? from the Internet, or from colleagues? That he should know all possible techniques, but not connect it with love?
In the days of our youth, a game of bottle was popular, when the pinnacle was a kiss on the cheek or on the lips, and today, when sex ejaculates to us from every side ( TV, Internet), kissing is something common, now playing the aforementioned game well if you only play for oral intercourse, because more and more often you end up with casual sex.
Isn’t this frightening? Of course, the responsibility for this should not be laid only on the parents, it happens that today sex flows to us from every side, at least every second advertisement in the subtext talks about sex, it is rare to find movies that are devoid of such content, and also the colleagues of our children also create pressure on them that it is seemingly nothing, that it is better to have this ? first time ? behind us.
Let’s be reasonable and wise parents and talk about these issues with our children from an early age, adjusting the content of the conversation to their age, of course, let them know that they can trust us and come to us with any problem. Let’ s explain to the child that sex should be combined with love, that it is not just geometric figures, but tenderness, closeness and trust in the partner. It’s not worth telling the child to wait until marriage, after all, it’s not really the most important thing, the important thing is that these are beautiful moments, which later you will not have to be ashamed of or regret them.
Children become parents
Touching on this very delicate topic, let’s not forget that nowadays younger and younger people are becoming parents, even though they are not planning it, let’s also talk about methods to protect against unwanted pregnancy, and if you have a daughter, it will be good to go with her to the first visit to the gynecologist. Let’s explain to teenagers that various diseases are very easily transmitted through sexual intercourse and show ways to guard against it.
The most important thing is that from the very beginning, when you are a parent, you should talk to your child about every topic, explain everything and not bully him with lack of time, and in the future this will pay off with his trust and openness towards us, and then we will already be able to talk about any topic without a trace of blush on our cheeks. Isn’t it great when it is a child and later a teenager who comes to us with his problems, when it is with us that he seeks comfort and often good advice? Let’s not forget that it doesn’t happen by chance, we have to earn it all with patience, love and forbearance, remember that everyone makes mistakes, and the trick is to come out of them with a defensive hand, and to remember not to duplicate them indefinitely. And it is possible that a child satisfied with the kind of family model we have created for him, will transfer this knowledge someday when he starts his family.
